If your answer is no, do not feel you need to explain your reason as to why you came to that conclusion.
It is not up to anyone else to decide why you chose what you chose. This includes judging others choices even if you think they should chose differently. Chances are when we try to convince or manipulate others for saying no, there is a part of you fearful of not getting your way or that somehow you are being jilted if the answer is no. Check in to see why no bothers you so much. Cherîe Hebert
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Take the time to think things through instead of an automatic judgment or defense mechanism reaction that does nothing to challenge your beliefs about things. Hear what is being said, then ask yourself what does this mean to me, do I agree, could it be possible, how does it make me feel? Is there another side to this that I could investigate? And so on and so on.
Its about learning to see things from many perspectives and not just one set of old out dated beliefs and programming from past experiences or the beliefs that were taught to you by your parents or others you looked up to. Just because things used to be true, does not mean they still are. We change all the time, from one set of beliefs to another. Its called ENLIGHTENMENT! ;) Cherîe Hebert |